People say that lust leads to love, but actually, it leads to an amazing night of hot sex. Are you in two minds, is it lust or love? We are here to clear all your doubts...


I don’t know if you have read Ramayana or not, this is a well-known story that Ravana kidnapped Sita. He got enchanted by Sita’s exquisiteness when his sister described the beauty of Sita to him. His heart and mind both filled with lust and he could not control and rushed to abduct her. Ravana was a disturbed man; Sita occupied his mind and attention. That wasn’t love that was lust, clearly. Ravana was a lustful lion.


Ok. While most of us know the disparity between intense meaningful love and impulsive passionate lust, it’s been well-known that the deep sexual appeal we often feel at the start of a relationship can in fact blur the lines and take away all common sense from our once intelligent wits.


Certainly, they ignite a fire within you and you cannot breathe for the excitement that keeps you up at night, but is that what it is? Love? Passion? Or else, just one of the immoral emotions? Could it perhaps be lust?


The key difference is that lust is primarily derived from those physical (and, yes, carnal) impulses. In the early stage of passionate love, people judge their new partners and build feelings for them based on relatively surface-level characteristics.


And if you are lusting after someone, those feelings will eventually fade. Lust is a great initial fire-starter, but lust alone doesn’t have enough emotional fuel to sustain a long-term relationship. This stage is meant to end.


The only solution to making that jump from lust to love, it is realising when your globe of feelings goes further than you expected. It’s not just about getting sexual - it’s how you share that experience together. And if you are lusting after someone, those feelings will ultimately fade.


SEX, SEX AND ONLY SEX: If your main incentive for staying with that person is to have sex, then your connection is based on lust. It evidently points out that everything you do–all the sugary and passionate things you give away - has a concealed reason that will lead toward the bedroom. True love is something else. People in love value moments and experiences they share, even if they are boring.



When you’re in love, you hardly ever keep your problems from your partner and you rely on them with your inmost secrets. You are at ease with sharing them anything without fear of being judged. Being in lust, on the other hand, you are insecure about telling them your problems because let’s accept it: the faith between the two of you is shallow and you feel that giving them extra information about yourself makes you too exposed.



Intimacy is actually the exchange of loving energy between two people who love each other intensely. While the two of you may spend most of your waking moments having sex, it does not mean that you have attained intimacy in your relationship. Intimacy doesn’t always mean having sex. Intimacy is being able to let your guard down and having complete faith in your significant other. When you are truly in love, you are at ease when you’re together and you find yourself emotionally involved.


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